Losing A Parent

November 30, 2013, Paul Walker and his friend, Roger Rodas lost their lives in a car accident. Paul Walker was one of my favorite actors, and I am shocked and saddened by his death. My thoughts and prayers are with both of their families and friends, but my prayers are especially with Paul Walker’s 15 year old daughter and if Roger Rodas had any children . I know how it is to lose a parent at an early age. If you know me personally you know I lost my parents at a young age. My mom passed away when I was only five years old, and 8 years later, when I was 13, my dad passed away.

It’s always hard to lose a parent, but it especially hard losing a parent when you are still a child. Your parents are supposed to see you grow up. See you graduate high school, get married, and etc. There is no way I can tell you on how to deal with a death of a parent. Everyone grieves differently. If I can give one piece of advice, find someone to talk to. Do not bottle up your feelings. I did not know what was going on when I was 5, but when my dad died, I was fully aware of it. My dad died right before summer break, so that summer I did absolutely nothing, and did not talk to anyone. I bottled my feelings up. It got to the point I became angry, and my mamaw, who did nothing wrong, got the brunt of my outburst. I blew up on her for nothing. She was only trying to help me, and I couldn’t at the time comprehend that. I even wrote that I hated her, and of course, she found it. I didn’t find out until I was older that she found it, and it hurt her. No matter how many times I said I was sorry, I could see the hurt on her face. I believe if I would have not bottled up my feelings, I would not have become angry therefore I wouldn’t have blown up on my mamaw. If you have lost a parent and have no one to talk to. Feel free to contact me by commenting down below or send me an email. I am a very good person to talk to. I tend to just let a person talk, and I will ask no questions.

Even though I know how it is to lose parent, I have no clue what Paul Walker’s daughter must be going through. Her dad’s death being splashed all over the internet and news. It has to make it harder than usual. I see the reports and I couldn’t image reading those things about my parents. This should be a private time for her and her family to grieve a death of a love one. Until here recently, I did not know all the details about my father’s passing. My family kept certain things from me because they knew at 13 I could not handle some of the details, but she can go on the internet and find out all the details, and see all the rumors about her death. She needs to remember her father for who she knew he was, not for what the news is reporting. I have said this time and time again when a celebrity dies and there is negative press about them, watch what you say people. Yes, they are celebrities, but they have family that are grieving and DO NOT need to read stuff like that.  People are insensitive sometimes. I don’t think they actually think about it before posting it.

Before this becomes a rant on social media (a whole different blog post) and lose this one’s intended meaning. I am going to wrap it up here. If you have lost a parent, you know how I feel about the loss of a parent. If your parents are still alive go give them a hug. Tell them what they mean to you. Call them if you haven’t talked to them in a while. You never know how long they are going to be here.

 Peaceful and Happy Thoughts,

--Rue.